written by
Mel Ryan

Why Your New Year’s Resolutions Keep Failing—and What to Do Instead

Self Awareness Happiness new start self love 3 min read

We start each year in January full of hope, eagerly jotting down big dreams, such as shedding those extra pounds or finally getting our finances in order. However, as the days pass, life’s demands often take over, making it harder to stay on track. Consequently, those initial sparks of motivation begin to wane, leaving us feeling stuck and frustrated.

Now, I want you to know something important: it's not you that's the problem. It's how we've been taught to approach change. Let's dive into why this happens and how we can shake things up for 2025.

Image of New Year resolution written on a desk with screwed up and reopened colored sticky notes. That say Eat better, Exercise more, Get fit, More books, Find new job
New Year Resolutions Myth

The Resolution Trap

Here's the truth: resolutions often come from a place of thinking we need fixing. We chase after these external goals, believing they'll magically make us happy. But let me tell you, that promotion or number on the scale won't suddenly make everything fall into place.

These goals? They're often reactions to what society tells us we should want, not what our hearts truly desire. And when we don't hit those marks? We end up feeling worse than when we started. That's no way to kick off a new year!

The Missing Piece of the Puzzle

Now, here's where it gets juicy. Real, lasting change? It doesn't come from focusing on those surface-level goals. It comes from digging deep and understanding what's really going on inside.

Why do we keep giving until we're running on empty? Why do we put off the things we know are good for us? These are the questions that lead us to the good stuff—understanding our true selves, our blocks, and what we really need.

So, what if we flipped the script this year? Instead of making a list of resolutions, let's focus on building a rock-solid foundation for growth and happiness. Imagine taking the time to unpack what's been holding you back and creating a personal toolkit to support yourself in a way that feels authentic and sustainable.

That's exactly what my Set Me Up for 2025 workshop series is all about. It's not about quick fixes or chasing some idea of perfection. It's about uncovering those patterns that keep tripping you up and learning how to create meaningful, lasting change from the inside out.

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New Year. New meaningful, lasting change from the inside out.

What Makes This Approach Different

In these workshops, we're not just setting random goals. We're diving deep to:

  • Create Authentic Goals: Design goals that align with your truth and reflect what truly matters.
  • Identify Unique Blocks: Uncover what's really stopping you from moving forward and address those barriers.
  • Shift Your Mindset: Reframe how you view success, happiness, and progress to unlock new possibilities.
  • Build Your Empowered Choice List: Develop personalized strategies to support yourself through challenges.
  • Set Meaningful Intentions: Focus on how you want to feel and live, not just on what you want to achieve.

It's all about stepping into 2025 with clarity, confidence, and a deeper understanding of your beautiful, authentic self.

Can you imagine what your life could look like if you stopped chasing resolutions and started creating a life that truly aligns with your values? No more pressure to fit into someone else's idea of success. No more beating yourself up for falling short. Just the freedom to grow, learn, and live with intention.

This Year, (Especially now that January is over and all those resolutions are out of the way), I'm inviting you to give yourself the gift of self-discovery and empowerment. The Set Me Up for 2025 workshop series is really about a forever shift in how you support yourself. It’s your chance to start living on your own terms, with all the tools and support you need to make it your most transformative year yet.

Remember, it's not about fixing yourself—you're not broken! It's about finally understanding and supporting yourself for real.

It’s never too late for you to choose “you” and step into your power and embrace your 100% authentic version. Are you ready to join me? Let's do this together.

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