Have you ever found yourself waiting for someone or something to show up and fix everything? This is for you. Perhaps you've gone through a life-altering event - a "life bomb," as I call it - that's left you feeling lost and powerless, or even helpless. The honest truth is... as an adult, there’s no one is coming to save you. But please don't feel disheartened just yet. Because understanding this is actually the most empowering truth you'll ever hear! Get ready, because the person who comes to rescue you, is yourself.
The Myth of External Rescue
We've been taught to put our trust in others - our partners, parents, bosses, and friends. When things feel like they're going wrong, we hope and wait for them to swoop in and fix our problems. But you've lived through enough to know that people aren't constant, situations evolve, and life unfolds in unexpected ways. Your own journey has shown you this truth firsthand. When we build our lives on the idea that someone else will save us, we're setting ourselves up for disappointment and feeling let down. When we put ourselves as the rescuer in our own life, we start to see that it's time to stop waiting for rescue, and that there’s actually nothing that feels more empowering than rescuing yourself. It’s time to stop waiting for an outside-in rescuer.
The Power of Self-Trust
When you realise that rescue isn't coming from outside, something magical happens. You stop abandoning yourself. You bring your power back to you. And this is your inside-in rescuer. This is where you come to see that the person who comes to rescue you is yourself. This shift is about recognising that you've already survived so much. Realising that you can trust yourself to handle whatever comes your way. It's about saying, "I've got me" instead of waiting for someone else to show up and rescue you. You’re not a victim. You’re someone who is taking self-responsibility for your dreams.
From Powerlessness to Empowerment
Here’s the advice. Understanding that no one is coming to rescue you doesn't mean you're alone. It means you're in charge. You get to stop living small, stop freezing in fear, and start living with curiosity and freedom. You get to be your own hero. This transformation is about moving from powerlessness to empowerment, and from abandonment to self-connection. It's about trusting yourself to make yourself safe, no matter what life throws at you.
Taking Action: Your Self-Rescue Plan
So, how do you start rescuing yourself? Begin by changing your story and give these a try:
- Instead of saying "Someone will save me," start saying "I've got me."
- Remind yourself of all the challenges you've already overcome. You're still here! Let’s celebrate that as proof of your resilience.
- Start with small steps to build self-trust. What could feel good to you to show you that you’ve got you?
- Make promises to yourself and keep them. See how it feels to be there for you.
- Listen to your intuition and reduce your need to control all the outcomes. Notice what happens.
- Set boundaries that honour your needs. Each time you show up for yourself, you're strengthening your muscle of self-reliance.
The self-knowledge you’ll gain from this self-rescue plan isn’t about going on an isolating journey without support. It's about building a foundation of self-trust so strong that you can connect with others from a place of wholeness, not need. If you hadn’t realised it before now, I want to remind you that you have the power to rescue yourself. And that changes everything.
*If you're ready to dive deeper into this transformative work, consider joining us at the Come Back to You retreat in Geelong. It's a space where you can learn to stop abandoning yourself and start anchoring in self-trust. Stop living from the outside-in, and start being there for yourself from the inside-in. But whether you join us or not, remember that you have the power to rescue yourself. And that changes everything!